My issue is I do not know if I am overreacting oris she showing signs of being molested. known him almost 8 years, but i have found comfort and love and acceptance with him. Limit all access to them! He's in year one and virtually since starting school he has been displaying the constant need to touch others. It has damaged me even though it didnt happen to me. The detectives are not arresting the guy and dcf is just sitting on their ass. My daughter has not seen him since 8/ 2016. He left me in the sauna with the girl. I left this alone for a couple of days but I am sick in my soul and spirit. People are hurting and are using this forum to cope and try to heal from their ordeal while you ignorantly attempt to correct their grammar. NO understanding and NO sympathy. By this point Im sick to my stomach by this. Now for example, when you state in your sixth sign "there very quiet" that, as well, is an incorrect use of the word THERE. Someone will listen. Here we are. Your daughters that are learning shit like this from an older person isnt learning how to do it to other kids and it isnt not cool ! and shes like he's a man afterall Anyways she's never said anything happened between her and dad and dad was always a very respectable person in many peoples eyes so i never even considered that it could be true. There are programs probably in your community that teach assertiveness skills. How dare you not protect that baby you should be ashamed of yourself and your just as wrong as your sick husband if you don't do something and get him out of harms way. Im lost here and Im alone on this Besides having my parents, I dont have anyone else. Use the words you and your child usually use to describe parts of the body that aren't supposed to be touched by other people . So again he "showed" what happened and this woman did NOT even pay attention to what he was doing. It's an issue that is largely ignored, and parents whose children are involved often struggle to find support. WORTHLESS!!! I was fighting for about 1 1/2 for her. I feel calmer and more in control afterwards. I am in a situation where I had to choose do I admit to my child showing signs and me suspecting something, but not reporting it because I feared to look crazy to my son father's family and being charged with neglect for not reporting it right away, which can lead to them seeing me unfit and taking my children or do I just let him get away with it. It doesn't matter if you/anyone thinks you're crazy because it is better to be looked at as crazy then have someone hurt your little one. If anyone is standing by while a child is being molested, we do remember. Should I just take her back to court? If your child discloses that she has been sexually abused or has received an inappropriate touch. These are a few things that I have experienced and have seen happen with children that have been abused. My 5 and a half year old told me that someone touched his pee pee. PLEASE I NEED RESOURCES. "Inappropriate touches are any time someone touches your private parts in a way that makes you feel confused, sad, or uncomfortable," she says. This was after the Sherrie had already spoke to my granddaughter and I was directed to do an emergency stay order and DHS told me too. I want stand by and watch my cousins keep getting abused .he gotta away with it with my older cousin and she isnt away n Georgia n doesnt want to come back n her mom wonders why ?? Touching an adult's genitals. If not her father, someone had abused my child. THEIR: this word is used to show ownership of more than one single person, thing, etc. A good touch can be explained as a way for people to show they care for each . 1. I've read some of the comments below. I need help, am suspecting my husband that he is touching my 2yrs and 4months daughters private part. The other might not be as clear but is just as important: most kids who act out sexually have been touched by someone else that way. One day the truth will come out and when it does they will owe my baby an apology. He told me to massage his middle leg. My cousin that is 19years old has been touched by her moms boyfriend which is 23 years old . After hearing this I was about to call his mother but then he sent me pictures of him holding a gun to his head and would send pictures of knifes. (Richard Drury / Getty Images). The problem I'm having now is that his son is starting to touch his other two younger brothers inappropriately. Oh yes, we do remember. "It's not black and white, but if it's a 7-year-old looking at a 4-year-old's genitals, I don't see this as a reportable offense," says Janet Rosenzweig, the executive director of the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children and author of the book "The Sexwise Parent." But when her son was in first grade, she found out that he had once again been touched inappropriately. Professional crisis counselors are there 24/7 to provide assistance in over 170 languages. Can refer to a local reporting number. Now all if a sudden my daughter has mentioned to a soc worker I've done something that I know is not true. Is this normal affection or abuse? She took her son to a specialist and hoped that would be the end of it. So after I read a few articles online such as this one, I followed the advice to go report the abuse to police. Parents may have trouble distinguishing between typical sexual exploration and something more troubling. Im pissed to the max. I went to the 4 year old which is as smart as a book shes can speak so good but when I went back their I said what happend she said my son kept hitting her sister on her back what kind of place was the sister in to hit him on his back ? Child protective services are absolutely good for nothing! I am not scarred or hurt or somehow bothered about this NOW that i'm 60 years old. When it comes to sexual abuse, parents often focus on protecting their children; few consider the possibility that their child might be the perpetrator. Half of me is freaking out and the other half is trying to stay calm and remember little kids do weird shit. Details alert adults that something isn't right. I will pray for all of you. and the weird part is he did often go out exactly when we stepped into the shower, and came back in after we came out of the bathroom. Get help and you and your husband should be the only adults around him. An example sentence: "that is THEIR house." My aunt had a 4 years and a 3 year old with this kid also ! I've been sexually abused so maybe I'm over thinking. She REFUSES To believe her daughter . I notice my sister son touch my daughter and I want to tell his therapist but Im scared they take my sis son away from her could that happen. Now they're saying they need more time. The majority of them are being inappropriately touched right at home by a family member or a friend of the family. It happened right next to me, to my best friend. His favorite word is stupid and he trys to touch my breast and even tried to touch my private parts threw my clothing . My daughter's father always likes to shower with her and I caught him exposing himself to her when he thought I was out smoking a cigarette. Take her to her primary to let doctor know that way doctor has record of it also. And now the struggle on my side is that my dad growing up was my hero, i admired him and loved him so much. For the past two years, her son, 14, has been in court-ordered treatment for sexually acting out. They are broken. Do you guys think it normal and he is just exploring. I asked her about the video and she beings to cry claimingshe doesn't know shes just like that. My niece is being molested she told me her new mother of one month says she knows her secret and is OK with it now I have to monsters in this home and noone believes me how do I help her with no proof. All of these signs of child molestation is very important an I talk to my cousins about it sometimes an it helps so thank you . And he'd ask her questions about what her and her boyfriend in school do together sexually. all the signs were there all the time - I just wasn't AT THE TIME aware of the signs. When it came to my attention from him telling me what she asked i asked her questions. I told her we don't play that and who is doing it. He also grabs me like this ( humping motion) but he does it slowly. If they are acting like they don't want to be left alone with that person even if they are a baby; do not leave them alone. That's not to say that some cases don't need to be reported. But I notice when he changes her diaper, after he cleans her up he will kiss her bare vulva before putting the new diaper on. **Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline** 800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org Offers crisis intervention, information, literature, and referrals to thousands of emergency, social service, and support resources - all calls anonymous. My child touched another child inaproperatly what kind of dr. does he need to see to talk about this. She is refusing to allow "grandpa" to visit or even communicate with his 2 grandsons and great grandchildren until he writes a letter acknowledging detailing his "mis-deeds" and asking for her forgiveness. Advising to contact police if your child tells you they have been abused sexually is the exactly what I did and I absolutley regret doing. She told the children services and the investigators everything in detail. If parents find out that their child is involved in inappropriate sexual behavior with another child, Nacson and Letourneau recommend being clear about why it was wrong, and laying out consequences if the child does it again. took me years to talk about it. I just read an article that has really upset me . As you can see, these words sound the same to the ear, but they are not spelt The same nor do they have the same definition or word usage. my child touches me inappropriately my child touches me inappropriately. I remember being taken to a neighbor's house and even recalled some of the furnishings that were upstairs in the bedroom. Ive notivef hes been scared on taking baths, he does talk about monsters, he cries when I have to let him go to his mothers(her cousin is the one that did it)and refuses to go. Here's what you can do: Discuss with your son what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior, especially concerning touching others. My son was so upset he was saying no mama no mama every time I asked him what happened! "Seek professional help anytime there is a power differential between kids, anytime there is physical violence and anytime there are threats or secrecy," Rosenzweig says. ive been single for almost 10 years, because it is difficult for me to get romantically involved with men. he also scares her. they took my daughter to the hospital and said they couldn't find any dna and that due to her being in the shower their was no way of telling. Child sexual abuse does not have to involve sex, penetration, or nudity. It would be interesing to know about your credentials and where some if this information is coming from and whether it is fact or opinion. Oddly enough, when I was 30, (I'm 70 now) I wrote a letter to my father explaining how I remember him doing "funny" things to me when I was 2 or 3 years old. I am at a loss of what to do. The reason Im here I was looking online about all the child abuse . Letourneau says some children are sexually attracted to young children, though it's rare. I have a 6 year old daughter. He said he would sneak his parents alcohol to get through days sometimes hed sneak their cigarettes. I hope someone replies back to me. Kids don't know how to make things up like that. Posted at 01:41h . My sister is 7 years older than me. Plz ,can I find out thru check up? Constantly reinforce the idea that their body is their own, and they can protect it. So sometimes i literally have to run out of a bathroom were a man has jacked off, because I can actually smell it. Then she began to brake down and cry. Its not your fault and he needs to get help for something he is dealing with. All that kept coming to my head ! I started to dress her after her bat and she told me her bottom hurt really bad. 2023 The Arena Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers on this website. When the Midwestern mother's son was in preschool another boy touched him inappropriately. "If we have a culture that talks about consent from an early age - teaching kids that sex should be with people your own age, not people older or younger than you - then we would know we've covered it," Nacson says. And that's why she showed me where to stand in the bathroom so no one (dad) would see us naked from the window. Do they do intercourse with their dad ? I tried telling the child abuse center/ Unit things multiple times and they refused to believe me because my son's father told them that I had the same suspicions about my daughter's father and that I am crazy. There are thousands of innocent children being violated every day. But was fascinated with were his poo poo went thru the pipes when he was training him . I asked her why is her dolls like this and she starts to cry sayingken trying to get the good things out of barbie. Now at the age of 23 I have 2 daughters 5 and 2. My father Gregory DAgostino Sr born 12/07/1955 used to touch me my private areas abuse me are used to have to touch his thing and hear the touch mine and I was scared because if I didnt do my mother would be the shit out of me they were both fucking really sick and now Im thinking why didnt they do anything about it then and now I just live my life in fear every day and all hes doing is hurting me now and now Im old enough to say something but I dont know what to do he molested me he always knew you gonna shower shower with him and make us touch each others things and I wonder what did he ever do to my sister but him and my sister have a weird relationship I dont know whats going on I think my sister just keeps her mouth shut because my father like Buys your cars and houses and all kinds of stuff but I know shes in pain I know my mother used to beat the shit out of her all the time but I was abused as a child my entire life and I just it just makes me in fear now and Im so much older now, THX this helps me alot about keeping my babies safe. 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